Imagination

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HOW TO OVERCOME OUR FEAR OF SILENCE

Our fear of silence is a learnt behaviour, which can be unlearned.   You enter a conference room where everyone is taking their seat in silence. How do you feel about the quietness in the room?   Do you secretly worry about why no one is talking?   Nervously laughing, do you make a joke to lighten up the mood?   How about emotionally zoning out while waiting for someone to speak?   Maybe even anxiously scrolling through your Instagram account while waiting for the meeting to start?   What do you do when you are meeting with silence?     For many of us, utter quietness can be uncomfortable.   According to Larry D. Rosen’s research spanning over six years and observing 580 undergraduate students, he found out that their struggle with silence is a learnt behaviour.   Our fear of silence is a learnt behaviour.     Let’s see

HOW TO GRACEFULLY GIVE FEEDBACK

“Communication is an ongoing feedback loop between a spectator and a ringmaster.”   Sitting front row, the little girl’s eyes were looking at the ringmaster. Like a maestro directing a great performance, the ringmaster was standing centre stage.     Much was happening in the background for she heard the sound of drums, trumpets, and flamethrowers galore.     Smiling, she was mesmerized with the show taking place in front of her.     Like a child living in the present moment, she laughed when the ringmaster made a funny joke, and she was genuinely curious when the ringmaster asked the audience a question.     She knew in her heart that she was watching a great performance by the very best.     She was a willing participant, an observer to all that was happening in front of her.     Because this little girl understood her role of

THE SECRET TO SETTING AND UPHOLDING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

When Suzy* first came to see me, she was feeling torn between her desire to feel loved by her mother and her need to have healthy boundaries. She told me that she was sick and tired of feeling miserable, and that was why she was coming to see me. Suzy wanted to know how to feel good about herself while having a healthy relationship with her mother. Can you relate?   I asked Suzy what she did for a living and she told me that she worked in the elderly care industry. She said she didn’t like her work. When I asked her what made her keep a job she disliked, she said, “My mom! She thinks I should keep it because the pay is steady!”   You might think I was having a conversation with a young adult butting heads with her mother. But Suzy was a middle-aged woman

HOW TO HEAL FROM A PARENT UNAWARE OF THEIR ADDICTION

“You’re just like your father!” “What is wrong with you?” are some examples of what a parent might say because of their addiction to limiting beliefs.   When we think of the word addiction, many of us believe an addiction refers to alcohol, sex, drugs, and gambling.  If we hold that belief as true, it becomes very easy to claim “Others have addictions! Not me!” However ...   Let's dig a little bit deeper.   For example ... Is it true that some people find it difficult to say no? Having difficulty saying no is a form of addiction. And is it true that some people care too much about that others might think of them? Constantly seeking external approval is a form of addition.   So you see, addictions refer to more than just sex, drugs, gambling, and rock & roll.   You now might be wondering ... What is an addiction?  

THE FIVE MYTHS ABOUT CREATIVITY IN THE BUSINESS WORLD

“Who do you consider as being creative?” I asked my potential client, Kravis*, who sat in front of me clothed in a navy blue pinstriped suit, matching blue tie, crisply ironed white shirt, and bull-bear Tiffany cufflinks. Crossing his hands in front of me, Kravis leaned forward and affirmed, “Look Anne, there’s no money in arts.” To me, the mere fact Kravis had immediately associated creativity to arts told me how he seemed to falsely believe that creativity is a realm only accessible in arts. But is true? Is it always true that creativity can only be found in arts?   Here are five myths about creativity in the business world.   Myth #1. Only singers and painters are creative?  In a 2011 study (1) performed by the University of Hong Kong, researchers wanted to determine who Chinese and German undergraduates believed were the best national and international creators. Their study showed

THREE WAYS IGNORING YOUR CREATIVITY IS BLOCKING YOUR DREAM JOB

When Joy* came to see me, she was dressed in black from head to toe, not because she found that colour trendy, but because, as she said, she thought it camouflaged her body fat. Looking at the ground as she said these words, she retreated deeply into her seat. This behaviour of hers told me a lot about Joy, how her life seemed to lack the vibrant colours of creativity.    Through my talking with her, I found out she did not like her job and wanted a new position because she felt unseen and unheard by upper management. When she wrote her boss yet another memo about an ongoing problem in her division, she claimed her words landed on deaf ears. Ever been in that situation?   When I asked her if she had provided her boss with a viable solution to this ongoing problem, she quietly said no,

HOW DO WE KNOW WE ARE TRULY SEEKING WHAT WE DESERVE

Have you ever walked by a supermarket check-out and seen packets of gardening flower seeds for sale? When I was a small child, I did, quite often, and I found the flower pictures on flower seeds packets wonderful to look at. I did not know the flowers’ names, the kind of soil they needed, or the kind of care they required. What fascinated me most was the sheer amount of flower varieties, all of them within the grasp of the gardener enthusiast!   My mother often found me contemplating these packets of flower seeds, standing in front of them with my mouth open and my eyes big. Gently touching the pictures on the packets with the tip of my small fingers, I wanted to know if their petals were velvet soft and their fragrance sweet. I even thought of taking a bite from the grown flowers to see if they tasted

HOW FAR AM I WILLING TO GO?

HOW FAR AM I WILLING TO GO?   Am I willing to go beyond the stars Where you and I were born Where the sun befriends the moon Where rainbows bridge us all?   Am I willing to go further than the eye can see Where trees plant their roots Where flowers drop their seeds Where leaves take in the colours of seasons?   Am I willing to go deeper than the ocean floor Where all the river beds make one Where the illusion of division is triumphed over Where we all feel as one?   How far am I willing to go?   I am willing to go At the centre of myself Where I hear it all begins The point of origin That unites us all.   I am willing to go Where ‘broken’ lines disappear Where there is no you or me Where there is only a

I — USED TO THINK

I -- USED TO THINK   I used to think A tree was just a tree I saw it with my own mind Roots, trunk, branches, leaves.   I used to think You were different than me I saw it with my own mind Bodies, fences, judgement, fear.   Thanks to my mentor, I met me For a moment, I stopped thinking, In stillness, my mind cracked open Discovering sunshine cooling breeze within.   How refreshing To hear inside the giggles of a small child Who never thought we were separate Who's always known we all belong.   Because of my love for this child and me The lines in my mind are becoming blurry If there is nothing separating you from me Then, who am I? What are we?   Willing to know, I ask her to show me the way How I may serve her from a place

THE CHICKEN AND THE BEAR

(Fairytale for grown-ups. Click on the multiple pictures included for a greater close-up.) Once upon a time, there was a small yellow chicken and a big brown bear living together inside a tree cave by the park. The big brown bear loved the small yellow chicken so much, he often held it gently forward so the chicken could peek at the outside world, where he knew the humans physically lived.  One day, the chicken asked the brown bear why so many humans fail to see them. The big brown bear answered,   “Because they are way too busy with themselves to notice the likes of us.”   “Why is that so?” asked the curious little chicken.   The big brown bear heaved a big sigh. “Once upon a time, humans were told they were separate from us. They were told we are a figment of their imagination and they should

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