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HOW TO OVERCOME OUR FEAR OF SILENCE

Our fear of silence is a learnt behaviour, which can be unlearned. You enter a conference room where everyone is taking their seat in silence. How do you feel about the quietness in the room? Do you secretly worry about why no one is talking? Nervously laughing, do you make a joke to lighten up the mood? How about emotionally zoning out while waiting for someone to speak? Maybe even anxiously scrolling through your Instagram account while waiting for the meeting to start? What do you do when you are meeting with silence? For many of us, utter quietness can be uncomfortable. According to Larry D. Rosen’s research spanning over six years and observing 580 undergraduate students, he found out that their struggle with silence is a learnt behaviour. Our fear of silence is a learnt behaviour. Let’s see

By Anne Beaulieu| February 19th, 2019|acceptance, Accountability, Anger, Anxiety, Assertiveness, Authenticity, Awareness, Blind Spots, Commitment, Communication, Compassion, Confidence, Conscience, Courage, Creativity, Curiosity, Depression, Emotional Boundaries, Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, Enabling, Equality, Faith, Forgiveness, freedom, Friendship, Frustration, Gratefulness, Grief, Guilt, Happiness, Hope, Ignorance, Imagination, Inner Child, Inner Peace, Insanity, Instinct, Integrity, Intellect, Intent, Intentions, Intuition, Joy, Leadership, Life Purpose, Love, Magic, Mindfullness, Parenting Self, Passion, Patience, Peace, procrastination, Racism, Reality, Relationship, responsibility, Sadness, Sanity, Satisfaction, Self-Confidence, Self-empowerment, Self-Worth, Sensitivity, Settling, Shame, Silent Treatment, Social Awareness, Speaking, Stress, Success, Support System, Tolerance, Trust, Walking Inside, WalkingInside|0 Comments

HOW TO GRACEFULLY GIVE FEEDBACK

“Communication is an ongoing feedback loop between a spectator and a ringmaster.” Sitting front row, the little girl’s eyes were looking at the ringmaster. Like a maestro directing a great performance, the ringmaster was standing centre stage. Much was happening in the background for she heard the sound of drums, trumpets, and flamethrowers galore. Smiling, she was mesmerized with the show taking place in front of her. Like a child living in the present moment, she laughed when the ringmaster made a funny joke, and she was genuinely curious when the ringmaster asked the audience a question. She knew in her heart that she was watching a great performance by the very best. She was a willing participant, an observer to all that was happening in front of her. Because this little girl understood her role of

By Anne Beaulieu| February 12th, 2019|acceptance, Accountability, Anger, Anxiety, Assertiveness, Authenticity, Awareness, Blind Spots, Commitment, Compassion, Confidence, Conscience, Courage, Creativity, Curiosity, Decency, Depression, Dreams, Emotional Boundaries, Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, Enabling, Equality, Faith, Forgiveness, freedom, Friendship, Frustration, Gratefulness, Grief, Guilt, Happiness, Hope, Ignorance, Imagination, Inner Child, Inner Peace, Insanity, Instinct, Integrity, Intellect, Intent, Intentions, Intuition, Joy, Leadership, Life Purpose, Love, Magic, Mindfullness, Parenting Self, Passion, Patience, Peace, Racism, Reality, Relationship, responsibility, Sadness, Sanity, Satisfaction, Self-Confidence, Self-empowerment, Self-Worth, Sensitivity, Settling, Shame, Silent Treatment, Social Awareness, Stress, Success, Support System, Tolerance, Trust, Walking Inside, WalkingInside, Work Performance|0 Comments

THE SECRET TO SETTING AND UPHOLDING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

When Suzy* first came to see me, she was feeling torn between her desire to feel loved by her mother and her need to have healthy boundaries. She told me that she was sick and tired of feeling miserable, and that was why she was coming to see me. Suzy wanted to know how to feel good about herself while having a healthy relationship with her mother. Can you relate? I asked Suzy what she did for a living and she told me that she worked in the elderly care industry. She said she didn’t like her work. When I asked her what made her keep a job she disliked, she said, “My mom! She thinks I should keep it because the pay is steady!” You might think I was having a conversation with a young adult butting heads with her mother. But Suzy was a middle-aged woman

By Anne Beaulieu| January 15th, 2019|acceptance, Accountability, Anger, Anxiety, Assertiveness, Authenticity, Awareness, Blind Spots, Commitment, Compassion, Confidence, Conscience, Courage, Creativity, Curiosity, Decency, Depression, Dreams, Emotional Boundaries, Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, Enabling, Equality, Faith, Forgiveness, freedom, Friendship, Frustration, Gratefulness, Grief, Guilt, Happiness, Heritage, Hope, Ignorance, Imagination, Inner Child, Inner Peace, Insanity, Instinct, Integrity, Intellect, Intent, Intentions, Intuition, Joy, Leadership, Life Purpose, Love, Magic, Mindfullness, Parenting Self, Passion, Patience, Peace, procrastination, Racism, Reality, Relationship, responsibility, Sadness, Sanity, Satisfaction, Self-Confidence, Self-empowerment, Self-Worth, Sensitivity, Settling, Sexual Harassment, Shame, Silent Treatment, Social Awareness, Space, Speaking, Stress, Success, Support System, Tolerance, Trust, Walking Inside, WalkingInside, Work Performance|0 Comments

HOW TO HEAL FROM A PARENT UNAWARE OF THEIR ADDICTION

“You’re just like your father!” “What is wrong with you?” are some examples of what a parent might say because of their addiction to limiting beliefs. When we think of the word addiction, many of us believe an addiction refers to alcohol, sex, drugs, and gambling. If we hold that belief as true, it becomes very easy to claim “Others have addictions! Not me!” However ... Let's dig a little bit deeper. For example ... Is it true that some people find it difficult to say no? Having difficulty saying no is a form of addiction. And is it true that some people care too much about that others might think of them? Constantly seeking external approval is a form of addition. So you see, addictions refer to more than just sex, drugs, gambling, and rock & roll. You now might be wondering ... What is an addiction?

By Anne Beaulieu| January 8th, 2019|acceptance, Accountability, Anger, Anxiety, Assertiveness, Authenticity, Awareness, Blind Spots, Commitment, Compassion, Confidence, Conscience, Courage, Creativity, Curiosity, Decency, Depression, Dreams, Emotional Boundaries, Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, Enabling, Equality, Forgiveness, freedom, Friendship, Frustration, Gratefulness, Grief, Guilt, Happiness, Heritage, Ignorance, Imagination, Inner Child, Inner Peace, Insanity, Instinct, Integrity, Intellect, Intent, Intentions, Intuition, Joy, Leadership, Life Purpose, Love, Magic, Mindfullness, Parenting Self, Passion, Patience, Peace, procrastination, Racism, Reality, Relationship, responsibility, Sadness, Sanity, Satisfaction, Self-Confidence, Self-empowerment, Self-Worth, Sensitivity, Settling, Shame, Silent Treatment, Social Awareness, Space, Stress, Success, Support System, Tolerance, Trust, Walking Inside, WalkingInside|0 Comments

HOW CANADIAN BORN CHINESE CAN CONNECT WITH THEIR CHINESE HERITAGE

“You don’t understand. I don’t want you to feel sorry for me. I need you to be compassionate.” In that moment, she felt the all too familiar feeling of what it was like to be a Canadian born Chinese wanting to connect with her Chinese heritage. When Ming* (name changed to protect privacy) first came to see me, her back was hunched forward as if she was carrying too heavy a burden on her shoulders. She nervously pushed her glasses up the tip of her nose before letting her long black hair drop forward to cover part of her face. When I asked this young Chinese woman what she needed, Ming made the following comment: Through my talking with Ming, I found out her Chinese grandmother had been the one primarily responsible for her caregiving while she was growing up. Her grandmother, who was living with Ming’s family,

By Anne Beaulieu| August 23rd, 2018|acceptance, Accountability, Assertiveness, Authenticity, Awareness, Blind Spots, Commitment, Compassion, Courage, Curiosity, Depression, Emotional Boundaries, Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, Forgiveness, freedom, Gratefulness, Grief, Guilt, Happiness, Heritage, Ignorance, Inner Peace, Insanity, Intent, Intentions, Joy, Leadership, Love, Magic, Mindfullness, Parenting Self, Patience, Relationship, responsibility, Sadness, Sanity, Self-empowerment, Self-Worth, Sensitivity, Social Awareness, Success, Walking Inside|0 Comments

HOW TO HEAL FROM A PARENT UNAWARE OF THEIR ADDICTIONS (PART TWO OF A TWO PARTS SERIES)

“You’re just like your father/mother!” “Why can’t you ever do anything right?” “What is wrong with you?” are some examples of what an unaware parent might keep telling their child(ren) out of their addiction to emotional patterns. When we think of the word addiction, many of us tend to list alcohol, sex, drugs, and gambling as the most ‘obvious’ ones while at the same time probably defending our position saying things like, “Others have addictions! Not me!” How do I know that? Because I used to be the sort of parent who claimed ‘Not me!’ when the word addiction was mentioned; I had a very narrow perception of what an addiction actually is. You might be wondering ... ‘What is an addiction?’ I believe the answer is, . An addiction is anything that is consistently detrimental to the human spirit. If

By Anne Beaulieu| April 11th, 2018|Accountability, Assertiveness, Authenticity, Awareness, Blind Spots, Commitment, Compassion, Courage, Emotional Boundaries, Emotional Intelligence, Forgiveness, Happiness, Ignorance, Inner Child, Inner Peace, Instinct, Intentions, Leadership, Love, Magic, Mindfullness, Parenting Self, Reality, Relationship, Sadness, Sanity, Self-Confidence, Self-empowerment, Self-Worth, Sensitivity, Shame, Social Awareness, Walking Inside, WalkingInside|0 Comments

TEN EMPOWERING TIPS RESTORING SELF-WORTH IN CASE OF PHYSICAL ABUSE

“Telling a child who is physically abused to feel their self-worth intact while the abuse is going on is like telling an adult not to scratch their car when hitting a telephone pole full blast.” ~ Anne Beaulieu ….. “I remember the day as if it were yesterday. My father had come in angry from work and he was looking for a reason to let off some steam. My mother was in a frenzy because she couldn’t find one of her contraceptive pills. What she didn’t know was that I had taken the pill out of its packet. I was seven years old and didn’t know any different. I thought the pill was candy, but when I tried to lick it, I realized it tasted bitter and I threw it away, falsely thinking my mother would never notice. But she did. She walked up to

By Anne Beaulieu| April 11th, 2018|Accountability, Assertiveness, Awareness, Blind Spots, Compassion, Conscience, Courage, Emotional Boundaries, Emotional Intelligence, Enabling, Forgiveness, Happiness, Ignorance, Inner Child, Inner Peace, Insanity, Intentions, Leadership, Love, Mindfullness, Parenting Self, Relationship, Sanity, Self-Confidence, Self-empowerment, Self-Worth, Sensitivity, Shame, Social Awareness, Support System, Trust, Walking Inside, WalkingInside|0 Comments

HOW TO DEAL WITH AN EMOTIONALLY SICK PARENT

I didn’t ask myself ‘Is she emotionally sick?’ I was eight years old and like many other kids, I just wanted to go play outside and make sure I had a clean pair of pants to wear to go to school the next day. Plus, what does ‘emotionally’ even mean to a kid? I didn’t even ask if she was sick. I mean, she looked fine on the surface. She could walk and talk, though she said and did things that even I found strange by moments. Like that time she put my hands on her tummy and told me she had a baby inside. She said she was the Virgin Mary and she was going to give birth to the child of Jesus Christ. As strange as she sounded and behaved at times, my mother was not running a fever or having a drippy nose. When I

By Anne Beaulieu| November 27th, 2017|acceptance, Anger, Assertiveness, Awareness, Blind Spots, Commitment, Compassion, Confidence, Courage, Depression, Emotional Boundaries, Emotional Intelligence, Forgiveness, Grief, Guilt, Happiness, Ignorance, Inner Peace, Insanity, Intent, Joy, Leadership, Love, Mindfullness, Parenting Self, Reality, Relationship, Sadness, Sanity, Self-Confidence, Self-empowerment, Self-Worth, Sensitivity, Shame, Social Awareness, WalkingInside|0 Comments

HOW TO FEEL YOUR WAY THROUGH GRIEF

I couldn’t believe he had done it again. I was so angry that I didn’t even take the time to ask myself what could be wrong with him. Instead, I marched right over where he was, grabbed him by the scruff of the neck, and threw him unmercifully on the cold concrete of the back patio. This was the nth time that day that the kids’ puppy, Snowy, had pooped in the living room. I had enough! I watched him as he pawed the glass door, crying to be let back in. I yelled at him to go pee and poop as if a four month old puppy could have complete control over its bodily functions. He looked at me with pleading eyes. I pretended not to care and told him in a stern voice to go do his business or stay outside, his choice. Snowy was a

By Anne Beaulieu| October 27th, 2017|acceptance, Anger, Awareness, Blind Spots, Compassion, Courage, Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, Forgiveness, freedom, Gratefulness, Grief, Happiness, Inner Peace, Intent, Leadership, Love, Mindfullness, Parenting Self, Sadness, Sensitivity, WalkingInside|0 Comments

HOW TO STRAY FROM ANXIETY TO LIVE FROM A PLACE OF WELL-BEING

When Dixie* came to see me, her hands trembled a little as she talked about her husband’s anxiety. She shared how he apparently often sat in their apartment’s living room feeling overwhelmed, his eyes sort of absent, all because he seemed not to know what to do next. Dixie continued by saying she was getting fed up with her husband’s perceived inability to ‘get a grip’ over his life and she was now coming to see me to find ways for him to deal with his anxiety. What I asked her next became a game changer for her. I asked, What about your anxiety? Dixie’s mouth opened in a big O. I could tell she was trying to grasp what I was asking her because she said, shaking her head, “No, it’s not about me, it’s about him!” Once again, I turned her attention back to

By Anne Beaulieu| July 30th, 2017|Accountability, Anger, Anxiety, Assertiveness, Awareness, Blind Spots, Commitment, Compassion, Courage, Curiosity, Depression, Emotional Boundaries, Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, Enabling, Equality, freedom, Frustration, Happiness, Hope, Ignorance, Inner Peace, Insanity, Intent, Intentions, Joy, Leadership, Love, Mindfullness, Parenting Self, Reality, Relationship, Sadness, Sanity, Self-empowerment, Self-Worth, Settling, Social Awareness, Tolerance, Trust, WalkingInside|0 Comments

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