When James* called upon me, he asked that we meet in an open restaurant downtown Vancouver. Asking him why there instead of my office, he laughed and said, ‘Because I need it this way.’ On the agreed upon date and time of rendez-vous, James sat down in front of me and immediately placed his hands under the table where I could Not see them. This gesture alone told me a lot about James, how easily he pretended to be emotionally open yet felt the want to hide once in front of me. Through my talking with him, I found out James was one of nine children from a very large Catholic South American family. He grew up being an altar boy, going to Sunday school, and saying prayers. But something was Not working for him… In his teenage years, he realized he was gay and being gay is
ROUND AND ROUND Round and round We go again On the merry-go-round of life. Ups and downs, We think that’s life Until we get off our mount. Round and round We go again On the merry-go-round of life. Laughter and tears We think we’re here Until we go deep within. In and in We go again On the merry-go-round of life, Darkness and light Fuse into one Until we go round and round. With love & compassion, Anne What makes any of us go round and round in circles? www.walkinginside.com www.fullmontyleadership.com
"What if Procrastination is the “rogue” child born from a wild night between Perfection and Fear of Rejection? What happened to Burning Desire?" I posed this question one week ago. Some of you might have read it and think, “WTF! I don’t get it… This is a waste of my time!” Others might have been happier, like, “LOL, these three things are linked together? Fascinating!” And then… there might have been some of you who go digging deeper for the truth within themselves. It is these people, like you and me, I am addressing right now. So, pull up a chair, grab a slice of pi, and take a moment to ponder the following, What is Procrastination? To me, Procrastination is Ongoing Avoidance. We procrastinate when we keep avoiding doing something that has or needs to be done in this moment. What
'Are you a procrastinator?' When asked this question, I used to flatly answer no while looking at my interlocutor with the strong desire to smack their head. I found the question insulting. For me, a procrastinator was pretty much a lazy bum, someone who sat on the couch eating potato chips while watching reruns of a long ago past. This kind of procrastinator, they munched of others while waiting to be rescued/saved. Know anyone like that? When this type of person showed up in my life, I resented them. My back went up. They were an energy drain, a headache, an insomnia, a heart squeezer. I had little respect for them. Around them, I felt angry, stuck, and confused. I switched to high gear and performed like a monkey on crack as if to compensate for their lack of clear direction in their life. Let’s stop for a moment.