"Show responsibility! This is all your fault!” I said to my 16-year-old son who had just come home with a zero on a school paper he had handed in late. Showing very little compassion, I pointed my index finger to his face to justify the anger and shame I was feeling inside. “How could you let that happen?” I insisted. While my parenting tantrum was taking place, my son kept looking outside the kitchen window, verbally acknowledging zero of my questions. Mostly, he remained silent, probably waiting for the storm to boil over. His behaviour showed how I had trained him to ignore his own feelings and emotions and the feelings and emotions of others. He was behaving as I had taught him: like a victim. ‘How was that possible?’ you might ask. It is my belief … When a parent is unaware of their conditioning and
ROUND AND ROUND Round and round We go again On the merry-go-round of life. Ups and downs, We think that’s life Until we get off our mount. Round and round We go again On the merry-go-round of life. Laughter and tears We think we’re here Until we go deep within. In and in We go again On the merry-go-round of life, Darkness and light Fuse into one Until we go round and round. With love & compassion, Anne What makes any of us go round and round in circles? www.walkinginside.com www.fullmontyleadership.com
"What if Procrastination is the “rogue” child born from a wild night between Perfection and Fear of Rejection? What happened to Burning Desire?" I posed this question one week ago. Some of you might have read it and think, “WTF! I don’t get it… This is a waste of my time!” Others might have been happier, like, “LOL, these three things are linked together? Fascinating!” And then… there might have been some of you who go digging deeper for the truth within themselves. It is these people, like you and me, I am addressing right now. So, pull up a chair, grab a slice of pi, and take a moment to ponder the following, What is Procrastination? To me, Procrastination is Ongoing Avoidance. We procrastinate when we keep avoiding doing something that has or needs to be done in this moment. What
'Are you a procrastinator?' When asked this question, I used to flatly answer no while looking at my interlocutor with the strong desire to smack their head. I found the question insulting. For me, a procrastinator was pretty much a lazy bum, someone who sat on the couch eating potato chips while watching reruns of a long ago past. This kind of procrastinator, they munched of others while waiting to be rescued/saved. Know anyone like that? When this type of person showed up in my life, I resented them. My back went up. They were an energy drain, a headache, an insomnia, a heart squeezer. I had little respect for them. Around them, I felt angry, stuck, and confused. I switched to high gear and performed like a monkey on crack as if to compensate for their lack of clear direction in their life. Let’s stop for a moment.