When it comes to facing defeat, what if the French had it right? 


In English, the word defeat is made up of the prefix DE and the word FEAT. Did you know?


The prefix ‘de’ means separation or negation. The word feat is linked to victory.


Therefore, in the English language, the word defeat means NON-VICTORY.


Having said that …


The word defeat translates into défaite in French. Did you know?


The word défaite is made up of the prefix DE and the word FAITE.


Though the prefix ‘dé’ also means separation and negation in French, the word faite means DONE.


Therefore, in the French language, the word defeat means NON-DONE.


What an epiphany!


Do you now see how defeat can point to two vastly different meanings?


If that is true, when facing defeat, we have a choice:

  • Accept non-victory, which would mean that we agreed to quit;

  • Or accept that we are non-done and do what we need to do in order to claim victory.


In light of this,


The next time you might feel defeated, perhaps ask yourself the following questions:

  • What do I need right now?

  • What am I doing to give myself what I need to get the job done?

  • Who is holding me accountable so I keep giving myself what I need to claim victory?


When we start viewing every ‘defeat’ as something non-done, we stat realizing how we just need to keep marching towards what it is we want to claim as a victory.


Perhaps the French had it right when it came to facing defeat? To this day, they keep marching towards Liberty, Equality, and Fraternity.


What if we embraced that? What do you think would happen to us?


For starters, I believe we would be victorious.


My name is Anne Beaulieu and I am an Emotional Intelligence coach who assists her clients in facing what it is they want to quit, confronting it (whatever “it” is), and claiming it as a victory. You can connect with me at https://walkinginside.com/contact-us/


Your EQ coach,




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